Note: This mail was part of a long thread. I have - for reasons of privacy - replaced all names other than ours with "Mom". I also italicized the quotes and left my reply plain.
("Moms" list snipped for brevity)
WOW, this has set me thinking! i *think* i want (meaning, i am sure there are other things i can think of), and in no order of preference, for joakim to be...
... happy in all senses of the word (with himself and the world, to feel
the world is a good place and that he is a good person who deserves a
place in it) ... secure (both mentally as in sure of himself, his worth
and abilities and physically - as in never having to worry about
choosing between paying the bills or eating, for instance)
"Mom" also wrote in her list:
to which i wholeheartedly agree.
on a related, yet different note: one thing i really dread is the day joakim finds out that the world has cruelty in it (apart from kindergarten shufflings and fights). i *know* he will be hurt and that i will be powerless to stop it or help him. i *know* he will suffer - and has to, if he is to have a life - but it still brings me almost to tears just to think of it.
karine in oslo, caught in a soft moment ;-)